So here we are on the last day of 2017, and you can’t help with take some time and reflect. All in all I’m gonna say this year’s been pretty dope for me. I started my girls program (which has been a long time goal of mine), created a business, finally crossed the Grand Canyon off my bucket list, got a bigger place and I have a grown a lot. I’ve also had some not so great moments as well, lost loved ones, battled to stay healthy, lost a job, and don’t get me started on this administration. But with the holiday season, we see an influx of celebratory life events, the announcements of babies, weddings and relationships. And,
to a single person, especially a woman, it can be just a bit
discouraging, if you aren’t apart of it. ( side note: And I say to single women because society seems to put so much stress on women to be married and how our ultimate goal in life is to be somebody’s wife,
and I won’t get into the fine print of all of that because I have very different views on it now). But the reality is a lot of people are focusing on the fact that it’s another year gone and and they they are still SINGLE 😫.
Let’s think about a for a minute…how many people do you know what your relationships but are absolutely miserable in it? How many people you know they got married just to get married, to a spouse that is causing them hell on earth? How many people do you know there are forced to be a part of situations that they honestly don’t want to be a part of all in the name of not being single? How many families (because your decisions just don’t effect you) are at odds because someone decided to enter into an unhealthy union?
I understand the desired to be in a relationship and to be married, companionship is a wonderful thing and especially if it’s done in a healthy relationship. And, yes I still desire it myself. But I don’t want us to get caught up in the wrong things. It’s so much better to be living your best version of your life then to be caught in the situation just for saying so. Marriage is a life altering event, but it’s definitely not the start of your life. Are you truly living your life, right now? One thing I’ve learned throughout the year is that life is short and we must make the best of what we have. And this is not to say that I didn’t date because I did and I met some really good people and have had some awesome experiences with them ( i even got a chance to shoot my shot a couple of times 😝). But when you know, you know, and sometimes it doesn’t happen instantly.
So as we end 2017, can we please shift our focus on living our best authentic lives, being true to ourselves and making the best of every moment that God has given us? You are so worth it! I wish you the absolute best to you and yours in 2018.